Ask June: Devastated in Dedham

Dear June, My husband and I have been together for ten years and married for six of them. We have a four-year-old daughter who is the center of our lives. Everything seemed fine. Sex seemed especially fine. But now he tells me that he has just discovered (or rediscovered, but he thought that stuff in college was only experimentation) that he is bisexual. He says that he loves me as much as ever and wants to stay together, but that he hopes I will look into my heart and understand that as a bisexual man he also needs to have what he calls “man to man contact.” I have looked into my heart, and that is not what I see at all. I really don’t think I have a problem with his being bisexual—I’m a writer, and I have always thought that most imaginative people have some bisexual fantasies or … chop! chop! read more!